RESOLUTION BY DESIGN

What is conflict coaching?  Sometimes called facilitation or mediation, this is an empowering dispute resolution process.  With the guidance and support of the neutral person, parties share perspectives, clarify discrepancies, and collaborate on a solution. 

 

Much of the legal world is disempowering - with lawyers and parties competing, or a third party judge or arbitrator dictating outcomes.  I began mediating to offer an alternative to competitive, contentious litigation - to be part of a better process with better outcomes.    

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ELDERS

Elder Mediation may involve:

+  Family dynamics and relationship issues involving a senior 

+  Trusts and estates matters involving a senior

+  Challenges around aging and end of life 

+  Issues regarding a senior's living situation, including assisted living facilities and long-term care facilities

These conversations can take the form of an informal discussion or may be aimed at a clear resolution that serves the senior's best interests.  

My experience with seniors began over a decade ago, and I've worn many hats. I served in long-term care facilities as a companion and advocate.  I established a service group to train and channel volunteers into Bay Area long term care facilities.  I worked as a Long Term Care Ombudsman for Alameda County. 

I later worked as a legislative advocate with AARP and as California Senate Fellow advocating for seniors.  I currently volunteer with California Advocates for Nursing Home Reform (CANHR).

As an attorney, I continued serving seniors, working at a non-profit with seniors facing elder abuse and with families needing help with estate planning, probate, and trust administration. 

 

TRUSTS + ESTATES

Trusts + Estates Mediation may address many issues, including:

+  Challenging dynamics between trustees, beneficiaries, and settlors 

+  Disagreement about the terms of an estate planning document

+  Disputes regarding trust accountings

+  Estate planning around divorce and conscious uncoupling

+  The transition of a fiduciary duty from one party to another

+  Special Needs Trusts

I served as a Trusts and Estates attorney for several years at a boutique firm in Oakland, California.  My work involved preparing estate planning documents including: trusts, wills, advance health care directives, HIPAA authorizations, durable powers of attorney for financial management, and various deeds to transfer real property between individuals, spouses, and into a trust. 

 

My practice also included advising clients on funding their trusts, the administration of trusts, the probate of estates, and planning for the distribution of retirement benefits.

Often estate planning involves complex family dynamics, difficult decisions about distributions, and hard choices about death.  Mediation offers a space to discuss these topics in a structured way with a neutral facilitator.  

RELATIONSHIPS

 
 

FAMILY + PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS

With intimate relationships, my role is to help new relationships grow, healthy relationships become optimal, and struggling relationships become reinvigorated.  We begin with a customized assessment that explores communication, conflict resolution, finances, personality issues, parenting, friends, and moreThis serves as the basis for a conversation proven to strengthen relationships and improve satisfaction.  

 

With families in conflict, our work may involve:

+  Complex family dynamics

+  Separation or conscious uncoupling

+  Divorce arrangements

+  Co-parenting agreements

+  Premarital arrangements

+  Facilitated discussion around abusive or difficult behavior

I have mediated family disputes around separation and divorce.  I have worked with siblings facing the complex trust administration after the death of their parents.  I have worked with couples exploring how to prepare for marriage, while negotiating the intricacies of blending families and finances. 

 

PROFESSIONAL

RELATIONSHIPS

As a certified relationship facilitator and mediator, I serve clients in improving their professional relationships.  

I often hear from clients that the greatest barrier to experiencing joy in the workplace is a lack of healthy relationships.  Maybe you struggle to garner the respect and cooperation that you need.  Perhaps you seek a promotion, but you have a tense relationship with a supervisor.  Maybe you don't have the connections you need to grow and enjoy your workplace.  Coaching can help.  

Coaching to improve professional relationships may involve a combination of 1:1, co-coaching, and group coaching, designed for your needs.  

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TRAINING + EXPERIENCE

HARVARD LAW SCHOOL  |  JURIS DOCTOR  

HARVARD MEDIATION PROGRAM  |  CERTIFICATE IN MEDIATION

HARVARD LAW SCHOOL  |  COURSE ON MEDIATION WITH DAVID A. HOFFMAN

HARVARD LAW SCHOOL  |  MEDIATION CLINIC 

BERKELEY LAW  |  COURSE ON ALTERNATIVE DISPUTE RESOLUTION PRACTICE WITH JUDGE MARC L. GOLDBERG

SEEDS COMMUNITY RESOLUTION CENTER - BERKELEY, CALIFORNIA  |  COMMUNITY MEDIATOR

 

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